Category Archives: Happiness

Your Reading is About YOU

I answer a lot of relationship questions.  We’re all alike really.  We all want to be loved. I want to help you find that.  I have noticed there are a few things people repeatedly ask me. These things people ask aren’t really all that helpful for finding love.  Always keeps in mind that your reading is about you.

Asking What Someone Else Thinks About You

During your reading you may be tempted to ask questions about what other people are thinking about you.  The logic behind this question is that if the other person has interest in you then maybe you will get together.

When you have hung your personal happiness on a particular outcome with a particular person and can see no other way to be happy you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment.

I feel sad for people in this situation. I have been there myself. It’s not a strong confident place to be.  It is a pitiful place of victimhood where you allow other people and events to control your happiness.

While it’s true that if your person of interest is attracted to you there’s is more of a chance you will get together, it is not a certainty. Even if that person and you have deep soul connection through many lifetimes you are not guaranteed to have a relationship with him in this lifetime.  What you really want is to be loved. You think it has to be this certain person but maybe it won’t be. Maybe it will be someone better.

Wanting to Know What is Going On in Somone Else’s Relationship

Or you might want to know what is going on in another person’s relationship.

This is not your business and has little effect on your life. You cannot control what other people do. As a psychic my job is to look into the energy surrounding YOU and help you to get where you want to be. If your happiness depends on another person’s actions you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

One question I frequently get is “What is going on with my ex and his new girlfriend?” The logic is that if it’s bad with the new girlfriend your ex may come back to you. Not only is this flawed thinking it’s psychic spying. Your ex’s relationship with his current girlfriend has nothing to do with you.

Wanting to Know The Future

Everyone wants to know the future. I get it. I want to know the future too.  If you know the future you can take action to change it. Unfortunately, the future is very hard to accurately predict.  There I said it.  A psychic prediction is giving you the probable outcome based on current energy if nothing changes. But we’ve all felt the energy of a situation change. And does knowing the outcome change the outcome itself?

But I suggest that it’s better to know how to CREATE the future you want. I do currently give predictions because that is what people want.  However, I feel giving predictions robs you of your free will.  If you want love then go out and find it. Ask God and your angels to guide you to it. But don’t surrender your free will to a psychic prediction.

When you develop a strong sense of who you are and what you are all about then you no longer need to hang your happiness on another person. You will then no longer surrender your power to other people or to psychic predictions. This is true freedom. This is creating your future.

With Love,

Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Anchorage, Alaska

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I Can’t Make Everyone Happy (So Why Try?)

A Suicide in My Family

I can't make everyone happy. So I won't even try.

Recently there was a suicide in my extended family. My aunt's husband took his own life.  I wrote two posts on suicide following this.

A Medium's Perspective on Suicide Part 1

A Medium's Perspective on Suicide Part 2

My family was shocked but this wasn't the first suicide in my family. About 12 years ago my Uncle John took his own life.  He was the brother of my same aunt who just lost her husband to suicide as well as my mother's brother.

So my poor aunt has lost a brother and now a husband to suicide.

My sister and I were the only members of our extended family who could fly to the east coast to be with our aunt immediately following the suicide.  My sister flew out east from Seattle on the night our aunt's husband died and stayed for a few days.  I flew out from Anchorage, Alaska one week after he died.

Flying from Anchorage, Alaska to the east coast of the United States is a very long trip. It is about the same distance as flying direct to London or Tokyo.  That's how far Alaska is from the rest of the Lower 48.

I left my family and husband and traveled 30 hours round-trip to spend a few days comforting my aunt.

The Email

Upon my return, as my plane landed in Anchorage and my cell service connected, I received an email. It was an ugly email from someone on the internet identifying herself only as "Angie"  complaining to me about using the phrase "committed suicide" .

Yes that's correct.  I was literally landing in Anchorage returning from a very long trip to comfort my grieving aunt who has suffered the loss of two close loved ones to suicide when I received this nasty-gram. As an aside, my aunt loved my previous blog posts and they gave her a great deal of comfort.

"Angie" angrily informed me that the term "committed suicide" is "outdated" and "offensive". This was the first time I'd heard this.

I certainly don't want to be offensive to an entire group of people.  I do believe in using politically correct language so as not to be offensive to other lifestyles, religions, genders, etc.

A Little Internet Searching

So I did a little searching on the internet.  I found a few articles stating that this term is offensive to those who have made this choice and their surviving loved ones. But I still wasn't clear why it was offensive.

I then looked up the definition of "commit". According to Merriam Webster commit means to carry into action deliberately: commit a crime, commit a sin.  I can see that the word "commit" has a connotation of negativity because of the examples used.

I looked up suicide. This means the act of taking one's own life voluntarily and intentionally. Alright.  So the term "commit suicide" means to carry out the act of taking one's own life.

Further searching brought me a number of very recent articles from many reputable news sources discussing death by suicide.  They ALL used the term "committed suicide".* ** ***

Major news outlets are typically politically correct.  They most definitely use the current and thus least offensive terminology for everything.  By the current standards of Reuters, the New York Times and the LA Times my language is not outdated or offensive.

I Can’t Make Everyone Happy

I understand that we need to be sensitive to other people.  But this feels a bit over the line to me. I can't make everyone happy and I will not be afraid to speak my truth because I might offend someone.  For Heaven's sake I'm a MEDIUM!  My very existence is offensive to a whole bunch of people - some of to whom I'm related.

If you don't like or want to use the term "committed suicide" then don't.  If you think other people should not use that term then by all means spread the word. But for the love of God be POLITE about it.

This person who contacted me about my terminology was not genuinely interested in enacting change. She just wanted to unload on me in an angry way from the safety of her computer.

Hiding behind the anonymity of the internet to bitch out someone who is doing her best to help others is not the way to enact change.

Everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and feelings and this is MY blog so I get to share mine. Those who are offended are obviously hurting because they lost someone. Losing someone to suicide is particularly traumatic.  I understand that. Blaming other people for your own hurt and anger and shame is not ok and doesn't make it go away.

I mulled this over and worried for several days.  I am by nature a "people-pleaser" and don't like to offend others.  As I was thinking about this both my uncle and my aunt's husband who committed suicide came through to me and told me they weren't offended in the least and that I should tell "Angie" to F%^$ off.

They were both the the wild and rash sort of person who would have done just that.  I am not. I decided not say anything directly to her but channeled my thoughts and feelings into this post instead.

If my loved ones in spirit who actually committed suicide are not offended by that term then I will not be offended either.

My Obligation is To the World of Spirit

As a medium I must always remember that my obligation is to the world of Spirit.  Everything I say will be offensive to someone.  I cannot please everyone. That's the nature of my work.  I provide healing and comfort to those left here.  The connections I make are most often a result of the spirits bringing people to me and not the other way around.

I am working for those in spirit. I give them a voice and let their loved ones know that love never dies. I am not working to appease the over-active egos of people still here.

Love,

Chloe

Chloe Miguel
Psychic Medium
February 13, 2018
Anchorage, Alaska

 

*http://www.latimes.com/entertainment/la-et-entertainment-news-updates-2018-producer-jill-messick-committed-suicide-1518143800-htmlstory.html

**https://www.reuters.com/article/us-iran-canada-death/iran-says-canadian-iranian-committed-suicide-in-jail-more-arrests-expected-idUSKBN1FV0Q7

***https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/01/world/americas/fidel-castros-eldest-son-commits-suicide-cuban-media-says.html

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