My guides have been urging me to write about suicide. So, I started this post a week ago but put it aside. I felt like this topic is too heavy and I'm not qualified to write about it. When someone you love takes his or her own life it creates a special kind of hell for those left behind. While I can help people heal their grief through a connection with a loved one, suicide is particularly ugly.
Then my aunt's husband committed the ultimate act just yesterday taking his own life.
Oh my God a suicide in my extended family! It's not the first. I did not know him well, having met him only once. Yet I am acutely aware of the trauma he is putting my aunt and his other loved ones through. I'm also acutely aware that it did not solve his financial problems. Those were merely transferred to my aunt for her to deal with.
Additionally, it did not solve his emotional problems. I am aware that he feels he made a mistake. But it's too late. He can't reverse his actions. I'm aware that he wants to tell my aunt he's sorry. But she can't hear him through her grief and emotional trauma. Mostly I am aware of a life un-lived... of opportunities missed... and roads not taken.
We Are All Doing The Best We Can
However, I believe that every single one of us is doing the best we can at any given time. It's easy to look at this from the outside and make judgments about what I perceive he should have done. But my mind, my experiences and my perspective are not his. He was not able to climb up out of that hole of despair and saw no other way out. I should be sending him the highest level of compassion and love.
Many of us have lost a loved one to suicide. The impact it has on those left behind is deep and lasts forever. Even if we weren't particularly close to the person who took his life we still think about it years later. As a psychic medium, I've seen grief in many forms and suicide is extremely traumatizing for those left behind.
The loss from suicide is particularly stinging because it makes us look at ourselves and see where we think we've failed our loved ones. We wonder what we could have done differently to help our loved ones more. Many of us suffer a tremendous amount of guilt when someone we love takes his own life.
From a spiritual standpoint, suicide opens a lot of questions. We wonder if our loved one is safe on the other side. After all, many religions teach that suicide is wrong and that people who commit suicide suffer for it on the other side. That's a real fear for many of us left here. We hope and pray that our loved ones' souls aren't suffering eternal damnation.
Some religions teach that the souls of people who commit suicide are damned to wander the earth for eternity. Some teachings claim they must stay on earth for the remainder of the time they would have lived. I don't believe any of this is true.
So what does happen when someone commits suicide?
I believe everyone is welcomed into the light when we cross over regardless of how we pass. Everyone. It does not matter if a person dies naturally of old age or takes his own life, he or she is welcomed into the light. Going into the light is like coming home for our souls. I don't believe any soul is ever made to walk the earth for any length of time. Although some choose to but that is for another blog post.
Once our souls are on the other side we have a sort of "life review". In this review we see the impact on others of our actions in life including the choice of suicide. The soul who committed suicide now experiences the pain his loved ones felt when he died. He sees the trauma he left behind. When we cross over we can feel how the choices we made hurt others. Alternatively, we can see how the kind things we did also made an impact on others. So, I believe we judge ourselves.
Because I am a psychic medium I have a very different view of life and death than I used to. I have the vantage point of KNOWING that our souls go on after our bodies die. This knowledge has brought me a tremendous amount of relief. I wish all of you could feel as certain as I do that there is more to this life than just merely this physical existence.
Please understand I am not making light of suicide or of death in general. Life is precious - not to be wasted.
I send all my love and blessings out to those of you who suffer because you've lost someone to suicide. May you find peace. I also send all my love and blessings out to those souls who have committed suicide. You did the best you could with what you have.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Jan 20, 2018