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Fear And Love

Fear and Love
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Fear and Love. Two opposites of the same emotion.  Really the only emotion is love.  Fear is the absence of love. All emotions come from either fear or love.  A Course In Miracles teaches that all actions we take are actually ways for us to seek love and that every action is a cry for love.

Fear and love have been on my mind a great deal lately.  Why do I live in so much fear? It's very easy to think you don't have fear but when confronted with big changes in your life you will find out just how much fear you really have.

Changing my career from massage therapist to medium has been the biggest most fear filled thing I've done on purpose in my life.  I am still filled with fear.  Although I have much less fear of the spirit world itself now, I still fear what other people will think of me.  When I read that last sentence it sounds silly.  I can totally armchair quarterback myself and say "Why would anyone be afraid of what others think? Just get over it, Chloe, and be your authentic self."

When I step outside of myself its very easy to see how simple it is.  But living it is another story.  Also just when I think I've got a handle on the fear and I'm finally moving past it something happens to scare me right back into my shell.  I'll get something wrong in a reading or  my husband will say something less than supportive about it.  He is  definitely not on the mediuship bandwagon.  That has perhaps been the hardest part.  Although, from what I've seen it's quite usual when one is a medium to have a spouse who does not quite get it. It's ok. He'll come around.

I understand the whole fear and love thing.  I really do.  Yet I'm still in fear. There are still people I'm afraid of finding out what I do.  What will my massage business partner think? Will she be mad at me? What will my husband's family think? Will I earn any money? I know there are many people out there who want a medium. They are all over Facebook.  There are tons of groups on Facebook doing psychic and mediumship readings.  Those groups have tens of thousands of people who want mediumship services to help ease their grief.

Eight of Swords Robin Wood Tarot
Eight of Swords Robin Wood Tarot.

I also know that if I can't get over this fear and own who and what I am I'll never attract enough clients. A fearful energy does not attract clients. I won't be serving the clients who need me or the spirits in the spirit world who want to connect with their loved ones here through me. If I can't get over my fears I'm literally not serving others in the best possible way for the highest good.  I have a gift which I can use to be of great service and I need to get over my fear and stand up and serve.  Thinking of all the people who need my abilities does help put it in perspective and ease my fear a bit. I must change my thoughts to come from love and serve from love. After all mediumship is all about love. Love never dies.

Many of us live in fear.  We are afraid to go for a new promotion, afraid to start a new business, afraid to ask someone on a date and afraid to take risks.  We create these prisons of fear for ourselves based on what? Our minds make up scenarios about what will happen if we take these risks.  Yet inevitably when we take the risk we find out the result isn't nearly as bad as we think. In fact, we often find that other people are much more supportive of us than we previously thought.

So what can we do to get over our fears and start living the life we want? What can we do to live a life of love?

Fear and Love
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What comes to my mind is to recognize when our thoughts are coming from fear.  Simply recognizing when our thoughts are fear based is huge.  Once you recognize it and mentally step outside of the thought you can control it.   "Hey, wait a minute. I'm feeling fear here."  If we can realize when we are feeling fear and having fear based thoughts then we can also remember that the opposite of fear is love.  So then the goal is to move our feelings from fear based to love based.

That sounds like a pretty tall order. But really just recognizing the fear gives you power over it. What I have been doing when I recognize that I'm feeling fear and my thoughts are coming from fear is to reframe my thoughts so that they are coming from love. I remind myself that I can't help people if I am afraid to let others know that I am a medium and that I am offering mediumship services. I also remind myself that what other people think of me really isn't my business and that I have no control over other people's thought.  The only thoughts I can control are my own.

Knowing what you can control and what you can't and knowing that every thought, every emotion is based in either love or fear will put ahead leaps and bounds in the game. Understanding fear and love truly eases the mind and brings peace. It helps to tame the fears and put our worries into perspective.  Really what we fear isn't usually that big of a deal and once we face those fears we are much happier and able to live the life we want.

Love,
Chloe

Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Nov
. 27, 2018
Anchorage, Alaska

I would love to connect you with your loved ones and bridge our two worlds with love. Schedule an appointment today.

How I Went From Massage Therapist to Medium

Chloe Miguel Psychic Medium
Chloe Miguel Psychic Medium

How I Became a Medium

(This is the same information that's on my About Me page. But I thought I'd post it here too because I like my story  :-))

This is the story about me.  It's the story of how I became a medium.

My Childhood

My whole life I've been interested in the paranormal. Even as a child I was interested in developing psychic ability. As an adult I studied mysticism as part of my degree in philosophy.

When I was a child I was always afraid of ghosts. I would see things out of the corner of my eye but would dismiss them as my "imagination" or my "eyes playing tricks on me."  That sounds silly to me now. Why would my eyes play tricks on me? It doesn't even make sense.  But, since I didn't understand the spirit world, those things scared me. Consequently, I spent my whole life pushing it away and convincing myself it wasn't real. I hid under my covers my entire  life attempting to hide from the spirits.

The Trumpet

When my twin sister and I were in the fifth grade she wanted to play a musical instrument in the school band. My father had an old trumpet that had belonged to my uncle who had been killed in the Vietnam War.  He suggested that my sister play this trumpet.

Once my sister started playing that trumpet we both began having  experiences. I remember one day playing in my room alone.  When I looked up at my closet door a soldier appeared in the wood grain.  This startled and terrified me!  During this time of my childhood I would frequently "see things".  When I would see something I would look quickly and it would be gone. My sister had vivid dreams of our uncle and would wake up screaming in the night.  It got so bad that she would not go to bed at night unless the trumpet was locked up in it's case downstairs by the piano.

My parents were logically minded. So naturally they told me that it was all just my imagination. Nonetheless, these experiences continued. Since I had no understanding of the spirit world I didn't know there is nothing to fear and I was scared.  Now of course, I realize that my poor uncle was doing everything he could to let my family know he was OK.  He didn't mean to scare my sister and me.

College

In college as a philosophy major, I found it popular to be an agnostic or atheist. Logic ruled in philosophy in those days and the spirit world is not logical. After all, we belived, if it can't be proven by science then it can't be real. I felt that believing in God and the spirit world was backward and letting faith rather than reason rule your life.

After graduating college I was not sure in what direction I wanted to go. So I went to massage school. That way I had a skill and could have a job.  I worked as a self-employed massage therapist for 15 years. It was during this time that I realized I am a medium.

Spirit Appears

I enjoyed a lengthy career as a massage therapist owning my own clinic for most of my career. Many clients came to see the therapists in my clinic and we pride ourselves on our high quality therapeutic massage.  My clinic earned the respect of medical professionals across our community and my therapists enjoyed good careers.

Then the spirits made themselves known to me. I started to see flashes of purple light.  These lights continued for a year before I knew what they were. I understood some new age concepts of spirit guides and things like that so I assumed the lights were my guides or angels. The lights frequently showed up while I was in session with a massage client. Assuming they were guides I greeted them and thanked them for coming.

After this I periodically started having information drop into my head while I was working with a massage client.  I started to suspect the information was coming from spirit but I still did not realize I am a medium.

The First Time

The first time I knew I was having a mediumship experience I was working on one of my regular clients when I was suddenly having thoughts of her grandmother. The grandmother was making herself known to me and I understood this. Since I trusted this particular client I told her what I was feeling from her grandmother.  We were both stunned at the the information and details that I seemed to somehow know about the deceased grandmother.  As a massage therapist, I was familiar with energy, qi and other new age concepts.  I knew I must be having an experience with mediumship. Where else were all those details coming from? But I thought it was mostly likely a one time event. I was wrong about that.

The Purple Lights

About a year after the purple lights  first appeared I realized what they were. I had just walked into my massage room with a new client and was listening to her tell me her symptoms when a very bright purple light flashed right next to her. In that instant I KNEW what the light was. I knew it was a spirit who wanted to talk with her and I knew it was her mother.

I debated on whether to say anything to my client for about two seconds then plunged ahead.  The spirit of her mother connected very well with me and the information poured out. Detail after detail came through. The mother came into my body telling her daughter how much she loved her and what a good girl she was. I could feel so strongly her love for her daugher. I sat there hugging my client as we cried together. This mother's love for her daughter filled me as both the mother in spirit and her daughter here healed their relationship.

That session was transforming for both my client and me. She was able to finally heal life-long issues with her mother. And I came out of it knowing I am a medium.

Massage Therapist to Medium

Word must have gotten around in the spirit world because from then on many of my massage clients showed up with spirits. I would insist that I was not going to say anything to my clients in order not to freak them out. But the spirits had other plans. They would flash brighter and brighter purple lights at me to get my attention.  The lights would startle me in the middle of the massage so I freaked my clients out anyway. Then I would tell my client who was there and what he or she wanted.

Eventually I became very conflicted as a massage therapist. When spirits would show up I did not always know if it was safe to say anything to my massage client. They were seeing me for massage and not everybody is open to mediumship.  Masssage clients also started scheduling massages and asking me who was there for them.

I was growing more and more conflicted. Additionally, my body was starting to give out.  After a 15 year career my shoulders hurt all the time. At the same time our state licensing changed and I didn't like the direction it had gone.

So I decided to let my massage license go and pursue a new career as a medium. And that is how I became a medium.

Blessings,
Chloe

Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Nov. 16, 2018
Anchorage, Alaska

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