Fear and Love. Two opposites of the same emotion. Really the only emotion is love. Fear is the absence of love. All emotions come from either fear or love. A Course In Miracles teaches that all actions we take are actually ways for us to seek love and that every action is a cry for love.
Fear and love have been on my mind a great deal lately. Why do I live in so much fear? It's very easy to think you don't have fear but when confronted with big changes in your life you will find out just how much fear you really have.
Changing my career from massage therapist to medium has been the biggest most fear filled thing I've done on purpose in my life. I am still filled with fear. Although I have much less fear of the spirit world itself now, I still fear what other people will think of me. When I read that last sentence it sounds silly. I can totally armchair quarterback myself and say "Why would anyone be afraid of what others think? Just get over it, Chloe, and be your authentic self."
When I step outside of myself its very easy to see how simple it is. But living it is another story. Also just when I think I've got a handle on the fear and I'm finally moving past it something happens to scare me right back into my shell. I'll get something wrong in a reading or my husband will say something less than supportive about it. He is definitely not on the mediuship bandwagon. That has perhaps been the hardest part. Although, from what I've seen it's quite usual when one is a medium to have a spouse who does not quite get it. It's ok. He'll come around.
I understand the whole fear and love thing. I really do. Yet I'm still in fear. There are still people I'm afraid of finding out what I do. What will my massage business partner think? Will she be mad at me? What will my husband's family think? Will I earn any money? I know there are many people out there who want a medium. They are all over Facebook. There are tons of groups on Facebook doing psychic and mediumship readings. Those groups have tens of thousands of people who want mediumship services to help ease their grief.
I also know that if I can't get over this fear and own who and what I am I'll never attract enough clients. A fearful energy does not attract clients. I won't be serving the clients who need me or the spirits in the spirit world who want to connect with their loved ones here through me. If I can't get over my fears I'm literally not serving others in the best possible way for the highest good. I have a gift which I can use to be of great service and I need to get over my fear and stand up and serve. Thinking of all the people who need my abilities does help put it in perspective and ease my fear a bit. I must change my thoughts to come from love and serve from love. After all mediumship is all about love. Love never dies.
Many of us live in fear. We are afraid to go for a new promotion, afraid to start a new business, afraid to ask someone on a date and afraid to take risks. We create these prisons of fear for ourselves based on what? Our minds make up scenarios about what will happen if we take these risks. Yet inevitably when we take the risk we find out the result isn't nearly as bad as we think. In fact, we often find that other people are much more supportive of us than we previously thought.
So what can we do to get over our fears and start living the life we want? What can we do to live a life of love?
What comes to my mind is to recognize when our thoughts are coming from fear. Simply recognizing when our thoughts are fear based is huge. Once you recognize it and mentally step outside of the thought you can control it. "Hey, wait a minute. I'm feeling fear here." If we can realize when we are feeling fear and having fear based thoughts then we can also remember that the opposite of fear is love. So then the goal is to move our feelings from fear based to love based.
That sounds like a pretty tall order. But really just recognizing the fear gives you power over it. What I have been doing when I recognize that I'm feeling fear and my thoughts are coming from fear is to reframe my thoughts so that they are coming from love. I remind myself that I can't help people if I am afraid to let others know that I am a medium and that I am offering mediumship services. I also remind myself that what other people think of me really isn't my business and that I have no control over other people's thought. The only thoughts I can control are my own.
Knowing what you can control and what you can't and knowing that every thought, every emotion is based in either love or fear will put ahead leaps and bounds in the game. Understanding fear and love truly eases the mind and brings peace. It helps to tame the fears and put our worries into perspective. Really what we fear isn't usually that big of a deal and once we face those fears we are much happier and able to live the life we want.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Nov. 27, 2018