Trusting my intuition is one of the things I have been working on for several years. How many times have you thought that you should do something and then went ahead and did something else that turned out to be the wrong thing? We have all done that many times. When I get those little nudges I try to notice them and follow them.
Recently I did a reading that I just have to share with you. It was one of those readings that really touches my heart. And it's also a lesson in trusting your intuition.
A lady called me for a reading. She needed it soon and I agreed to do it. My readings are almost all on the phone and she agreed to that. From the very start this reading seemed to violate many of the rules I have learned from other mediums and set for myself.
The lady who called was making the appointment for someone else. I don't usually like that. She was going to be present when the client was getting her reading. I don't usually like that either because it can bring in too many spirits and the one you want may have less of a chance to come through. But I liked her energy so I agreed to these things.
My Intuition Told Me to Go
A short time before her appointment I started getting the urge to go to them and do the appointment in person. I had no idea what this was about but I was not planning on seeing people that day and had not dressed for it.
I texted the lady who had arranged the appointment and told her that I needed to come see them in person. They agreed.
When I arrived for the appointment there were four family members present. This is usually something I am not comfortable with because, again, it can bring in too many spirits. But my intuition told me it was OK and that they should stay.
I started the reading and immediately their beloved, son/brother came through. This was the person they all wanted and needed to hear from. This lovely young man who's life ended tragically short, brought through great evidence. Right away he wanted me to hug his mother.
The reading brought tears to everyone's eyes including me. I am so grateful that I trusted my intuition all along the way and did this reading the way the young man in spirit wanted me to. He was speaking to me through my intuition knowing I would trust it. He knew that doing the reading the way he suggested would be best for everyone involved.
It turned out to be the kind of reading that makes me so glad to be doing the work I am doing. I feel so privileged to be able to facilitate this kind of healing for people.
Chloe Miguel,Psychic Medium
Anchorage, Alaska Nov. 7, 2018
I believe in reincarnation. But I have gone back an forth on that belief throughout my life. And I don't think reincarnation looks the way you might think it does.
As a child I believed in reincarnation. It wasn't that I chose to believe in it; I just assumed that was how things worked. In grade school when I first heard of the concept of reincarnation, I thought to myself "Well of course we reincarnate." I was surprised that other people didn't know this.
I was not raised in a household with any strong spiritual beliefs. We did not attend church and my parents rarely if ever discussed spiritual matters. If anything, my parents were very much "humanists" and didn't believe in any higher power or after life.
By the time I reached college and was studying for my degree in philosophy, I had landed squarely on the side of "Humanist". That is what you see is what you get. There is no higher power, life is an accident and logic rules the day.
For most of my life I just really didn't want to think about the possibility of life after death. If that theory turned out to be true then I would find out when I'm dead. If there was a God then I would find that out too. But for the time being the empirical, logical evidence just didn't support it. I was using my brain to think logically and critically and if there was a God then he gave me my brain and expected me to use it.
Yet, at the same time I was also always scared of the spirit world. Ghosts freaked me out. I was always telling myself the things I saw were " my eyes playing tricks on me"
How could I be both disbelieving and scared of the spirit world? That I held this dichotomy of belief never actually occurred to me. Maybe that's because I never wanted to admit I was afraid of the spirit world.
I currently believe in reincarnation. It just feels right to me. I have read many books on different spiritual beliefs and have come to realize that probably nobody who is still in human form can really understand how it exactly works. It's one of the great mysteries of life. Everyone who writes about and teaches this stuff says different things.
Based on my experiences with the spirit world and on my studies I have formed some beliefs.
Yes I believe we live more than one life. In fact I believe we live very many lives often reincarnating in soul groups with other people we have known in the past. However, time as we know it does not exist in the spirit world. So what appears to us to be the past or the future really isn't . So maybe your next life will be in 1547. Or maybe all of our lives are actually taking place simultaneously in different dimensions. I believe we do this for our soul's growth. Each life is about learning something new.
There is a common analogy I find to be very good. You have a soul which is like a computer. Each life you live is like a computer program that plays on that computer. So currently my soul is running the "Chloe Miguel" program. There is room for other programs to run at the same time. Programs can run a different times too.
So yes I believe we live many lives often incarnating with people from our same soul group in order for the growth of everyone's soul.
My family was shocked but this wasn't the first suicide in my family. About 12 years ago my Uncle John took his own life. He was the brother of my same aunt who just lost her husband to suicide as well as my mother's brother.
So my poor aunt has lost a brother and now a husband to suicide.
My sister and I were the only members of our extended family who could fly to the east coast to be with our aunt immediately following the suicide. My sister flew out east from Seattle on the night our aunt's husband died and stayed for a few days. I flew out from Anchorage, Alaska one week after he died.
Flying from Anchorage, Alaska to the east coast of the United States is a very long trip. It is about the same distance as flying direct to London or Tokyo. That's how far Alaska is from the rest of the Lower 48.
I left my family and husband and traveled 30 hours round-trip to spend a few days comforting my aunt.
Upon my return, as my plane landed in Anchorage and my cell service connected, I received an email. It was an ugly email from someone on the internet identifying herself only as "Angie" complaining to me about using the phrase "committed suicide" .
Yes that's correct. I was literally landing in Anchorage returning from a very long trip to comfort my grieving aunt who has suffered the loss of two close loved ones to suicide when I received this nasty-gram. As an aside, my aunt loved my previous blog posts and they gave her a great deal of comfort.
"Angie" angrily informed me that the term "committed suicide" is "outdated" and "offensive". This was the first time I'd heard this.
I certainly don't want to be offensive to an entire group of people. I do believe in using politically correct language so as not to be offensive to other lifestyles, religions, genders, etc.
A Little Internet Searching
So I did a little searching on the internet. I found a few articles stating that this term is offensive to those who have made this choice and their surviving loved ones. But I still wasn't clear why it was offensive.
I then looked up the definition of "commit". According to Merriam Webster commit means to carry into action deliberately: commit a crime, commit a sin. I can see that the word "commit" has a connotation of negativity because of the examples used.
I looked up suicide. This means the act of taking one's own life voluntarily and intentionally. Alright. So the term "commit suicide" means to carry out the act of taking one's own life.
Further searching brought me a number of very recent articles from many reputable news sources discussing death by suicide. They ALL used the term "committed suicide".* ** ***
Major news outlets are typically politically correct. They most definitely use the current and thus least offensive terminology for everything. By the current standards of Reuters, the New York Times and the LA Times my language is not outdated or offensive.
I Can’t Make Everyone Happy
I understand that we need to be sensitive to other people. But this feels a bit over the line to me. I can't make everyone happy and I will not be afraid to speak my truth because I might offend someone. For Heaven's sake I'm a MEDIUM! My very existence is offensive to a whole bunch of people - some of to whom I'm related.
If you don't like or want to use the term "committed suicide" then don't. If you think other people should not use that term then by all means spread the word. But for the love of God be POLITE about it.
This person who contacted me about my terminology was not genuinely interested in enacting change. She just wanted to unload on me in an angry way from the safety of her computer.
Hiding behind the anonymity of the internet to bitch out someone who is doing her best to help others is not the way to enact change.
Everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and feelings and this is MY blog so I get to share mine. Those who are offended are obviously hurting because they lost someone. Losing someone to suicide is particularly traumatic. I understand that. Blaming other people for your own hurt and anger and shame is not ok and doesn't make it go away.
I mulled this over and worried for several days. I am by nature a "people-pleaser" and don't like to offend others. As I was thinking about this both my uncle and my aunt's husband who committed suicide came through to me and told me they weren't offended in the least and that I should tell "Angie" to F%^$ off.
They were both the the wild and rash sort of person who would have done just that. I am not. I decided not say anything directly to her but channeled my thoughts and feelings into this post instead.
If my loved ones in spirit who actually committed suicide are not offended by that term then I will not be offended either.
My Obligation is To the World of Spirit
As a medium I must always remember that my obligation is to the world of Spirit. Everything I say will be offensive to someone. I cannot please everyone. That's the nature of my work. I provide healing and comfort to those left here. The connections I make are most often a result of the spirits bringing people to me and not the other way around.
I am working for those in spirit. I give them a voice and let their loved ones know that love never dies. I am not working to appease the over-active egos of people still here.
February 13, 2018
A rule of thumb for mediums is that when someone dies it's best to wait several months before attempting to communicate with him or her.
There are a few reasons for this. One school of thought is that the souls who cross over aren't immediately available for communication. They are in a sort of recovery time and life review. I have not found this to be true and have connected with spirits shortly after crossing over.
Waiting is also advised is because the bereaved person still here needs time to work though his or her grief. I agree with this reason - mostly. When a person has asked me for contact shortly after a loved one's death I have always asked them to wait a few months.
A Suicide In My Extended Family
If you read part one of this post then you know that my aunt's husband committed suicide recently. It was five days ago, actually. He came to me within hours asking me to help him communicate with my aunt. I felt emotions were too high and she was in shock. Additionally, I was shocked and emotional about it as well.
My aunt texted me after a couple days asking me to please let her know if I had heard anything from him. I still wasn't ready. We waited a couple more days and I finally made the connection for her yesterday.
Even though it was only a few days after his death and not the requisite "several months" we had a good experience. My aunt was able to verify some things she had suspected about her husband's reasons and what had happened. Our conversation eased her grief and her mind.
My aunt was very grateful for our conversation and that I was able to help her communicate with him. I didn't know him. I met him only once briefly. He was able to provide evidence that only she knew.
I am grateful for my gift. This experience solidified for me that this is how I am here to serve. Mediumship is my gift to help others with their grief.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Jan 24, 2018
My guides have been urging me to write about suicide. So, I started this post a week ago but put it aside. I felt like this topic is too heavy and I'm not qualified to write about it. When someone you love takes his or her own life it creates a special kind of hell for those left behind. While I can help people heal their grief through a connection with a loved one, suicide is particularly ugly.
Then my aunt's husband committed the ultimate act just yesterday taking his own life.
Oh my God a suicide in my extended family! It's not the first. I did not know him well, having met him only once. Yet I am acutely aware of the trauma he is putting my aunt and his other loved ones through. I'm also acutely aware that it did not solve his financial problems. Those were merely transferred to my aunt for her to deal with.
Additionally, it did not solve his emotional problems. I am aware that he feels he made a mistake. But it's too late. He can't reverse his actions. I'm aware that he wants to tell my aunt he's sorry. But she can't hear him through her grief and emotional trauma. Mostly I am aware of a life un-lived... of opportunities missed... and roads not taken.
We Are All Doing The Best We Can
However, I believe that every single one of us is doing the best we can at any given time. It's easy to look at this from the outside and make judgments about what I perceive he should have done. But my mind, my experiences and my perspective are not his. He was not able to climb up out of that hole of despair and saw no other way out. I should be sending him the highest level of compassion and love.
Many of us have lost a loved one to suicide. The impact it has on those left behind is deep and lasts forever. Even if we weren't particularly close to the person who took his life we still think about it years later. As a psychic medium, I've seen grief in many forms and suicide is extremely traumatizing for those left behind.
The loss from suicide is particularly stinging because it makes us look at ourselves and see where we think we've failed our loved ones. We wonder what we could have done differently to help our loved ones more. Many of us suffer a tremendous amount of guilt when someone we love takes his own life.
From a spiritual standpoint, suicide opens a lot of questions. We wonder if our loved one is safe on the other side. After all, many religions teach that suicide is wrong and that people who commit suicide suffer for it on the other side. That's a real fear for many of us left here. We hope and pray that our loved ones' souls aren't suffering eternal damnation.
Some religions teach that the souls of people who commit suicide are damned to wander the earth for eternity. Some teachings claim they must stay on earth for the remainder of the time they would have lived. I don't believe any of this is true.
So what does happen when someone commits suicide?
I believe everyone is welcomed into the light when we cross over regardless of how we pass. Everyone. It does not matter if a person dies naturally of old age or takes his own life, he or she is welcomed into the light. Going into the light is like coming home for our souls. I don't believe any soul is ever made to walk the earth for any length of time. Although some choose to but that is for another blog post.
Once our souls are on the other side we have a sort of "life review". In this review we see the impact on others of our actions in life including the choice of suicide. The soul who committed suicide now experiences the pain his loved ones felt when he died. He sees the trauma he left behind. When we cross over we can feel how the choices we made hurt others. Alternatively, we can see how the kind things we did also made an impact on others. So, I believe we judge ourselves.
Because I am a psychic medium I have a very different view of life and death than I used to. I have the vantage point of KNOWING that our souls go on after our bodies die. This knowledge has brought me a tremendous amount of relief. I wish all of you could feel as certain as I do that there is more to this life than just merely this physical existence.
Please understand I am not making light of suicide or of death in general. Life is precious - not to be wasted.
I send all my love and blessings out to those of you who suffer because you've lost someone to suicide. May you find peace. I also send all my love and blessings out to those souls who have committed suicide. You did the best you could with what you have.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Jan 20, 2018