Trusting my intuition is one of the things I have been working on for several years. How many times have you thought that you should do something and then went ahead and did something else that turned out to be the wrong thing? We have all done that many times. When I get those little nudges I try to notice them and follow them.
Recently I did a reading that I just have to share with you. It was one of those readings that really touches my heart. And it's also a lesson in trusting your intuition.
A lady called me for a reading. She needed it soon and I agreed to do it. My readings are almost all on the phone and she agreed to that. From the very start this reading seemed to violate many of the rules I have learned from other mediums and set for myself.
The lady who called was making the appointment for someone else. I don't usually like that. She was going to be present when the client was getting her reading. I don't usually like that either because it can bring in too many spirits and the one you want may have less of a chance to come through. But I liked her energy so I agreed to these things.
My Intuition Told Me to Go
A short time before her appointment I started getting the urge to go to them and do the appointment in person. I had no idea what this was about but I was not planning on seeing people that day and had not dressed for it.
I texted the lady who had arranged the appointment and told her that I needed to come see them in person. They agreed.
When I arrived for the appointment there were four family members present. This is usually something I am not comfortable with because, again, it can bring in too many spirits. But my intuition told me it was OK and that they should stay.
I started the reading and immediately their beloved, son/brother came through. This was the person they all wanted and needed to hear from. This lovely young man who's life ended tragically short, brought through great evidence. Right away he wanted me to hug his mother.
The reading brought tears to everyone's eyes including me. I am so grateful that I trusted my intuition all along the way and did this reading the way the young man in spirit wanted me to. He was speaking to me through my intuition knowing I would trust it. He knew that doing the reading the way he suggested would be best for everyone involved.
It turned out to be the kind of reading that makes me so glad to be doing the work I am doing. I feel so privileged to be able to facilitate this kind of healing for people.
Chloe Miguel,Psychic Medium
Anchorage, Alaska Nov. 7, 2018
I had an amazing experience with Spirit today that I'm excite to share with you.
I was sitting in my office and I started to feel a presence with me. Once he knew I could feel him, he sent me tastes and smell. I started smelling fresh-cut grass and the gasoline and oil of a lawn mower. He also sent me an image of the lady he wanted to communicate with.
I knew who she was through Facebook. I've read for her before. I also knew this was her beloved fiance who passed away over a year ago. She has been missing him so much and has not yet been able to connect with him through a medium.
Immediately I messaged her on Facebook and gave her the evidence I was getting: cut grass, gasoline, lawnmower, coconut bath products, other luxurious bath products and the oddest one - donuts in the garage.
She texted right back and was overjoyed to hear from her beloved. She verified all of the evidence I was getting. The messages of loved flowed. They have a son together as well and the spirit man expressed joy and love and pride for their boy.
I'm so grateful for my gift. I'm so grateful to be able to make these connections for people. I love what I do and I love demonstrating that our souls absolutely do go on after our physical deaths.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
August 23, 2018
I answer a lot of relationship questions. We’re all alike really. We all want to be loved. I want to help you find that. I have noticed there are a few things people repeatedly ask me. These things people ask aren’t really all that helpful for finding love. Always keeps in mind that your reading is about you.
Asking What Someone Else Thinks About You
During your reading you may be tempted to ask questions about what other people are thinking about you. The logic behind this question is that if the other person has interest in you then maybe you will get together.
When you have hung your personal happiness on a particular outcome with a particular person and can see no other way to be happy you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment.
I feel sad for people in this situation. I have been there myself. It’s not a strong confident place to be. It is a pitiful place of victimhood where you allow other people and events to control your happiness.
While it’s true that if your person of interest is attracted to you there’s is more of a chance you will get together, it is not a certainty. Even if that person and you have deep soul connection through many lifetimes you are not guaranteed to have a relationship with him in this lifetime. What you really want is to be loved. You think it has to be this certain person but maybe it won’t be. Maybe it will be someone better.
Wanting to Know What is Going On in Somone Else’s Relationship
Or you might want to know what is going on in another person’s relationship.
This is not your business and has little effect on your life. You cannot control what other people do. As a psychic my job is to look into the energy surrounding YOU and help you to get where you want to be. If your happiness depends on another person’s actions you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
One question I frequently get is “What is going on with my ex and his new girlfriend?” The logic is that if it’s bad with the new girlfriend your ex may come back to you. Not only is this flawed thinking it’s psychic spying. Your ex’s relationship with his current girlfriend has nothing to do with you.
Wanting to Know The Future
Everyone wants to know the future. I get it. I want to know the future too. If you know the future you can take action to change it. Unfortunately, the future is very hard to accurately predict. There I said it. A psychic prediction is giving you the probable outcome based on current energy if nothing changes. But we’ve all felt the energy of a situation change. And does knowing the outcome change the outcome itself?
But I suggest that it’s better to know how to CREATE the future you want. I do currently give predictions because that is what people want. However, I feel giving predictions robs you of your free will. If you want love then go out and find it. Ask God and your angels to guide you to it. But don’t surrender your free will to a psychic prediction.
When you develop a strong sense of who you are and what you are all about then you no longer need to hang your happiness on another person. You will then no longer surrender your power to other people or to psychic predictions. This is true freedom. This is creating your future.
My family was shocked but this wasn't the first suicide in my family. About 12 years ago my Uncle John took his own life. He was the brother of my same aunt who just lost her husband to suicide as well as my mother's brother.
So my poor aunt has lost a brother and now a husband to suicide.
My sister and I were the only members of our extended family who could fly to the east coast to be with our aunt immediately following the suicide. My sister flew out east from Seattle on the night our aunt's husband died and stayed for a few days. I flew out from Anchorage, Alaska one week after he died.
Flying from Anchorage, Alaska to the east coast of the United States is a very long trip. It is about the same distance as flying direct to London or Tokyo. That's how far Alaska is from the rest of the Lower 48.
I left my family and husband and traveled 30 hours round-trip to spend a few days comforting my aunt.
Upon my return, as my plane landed in Anchorage and my cell service connected, I received an email. It was an ugly email from someone on the internet identifying herself only as "Angie" complaining to me about using the phrase "committed suicide" .
Yes that's correct. I was literally landing in Anchorage returning from a very long trip to comfort my grieving aunt who has suffered the loss of two close loved ones to suicide when I received this nasty-gram. As an aside, my aunt loved my previous blog posts and they gave her a great deal of comfort.
"Angie" angrily informed me that the term "committed suicide" is "outdated" and "offensive". This was the first time I'd heard this.
I certainly don't want to be offensive to an entire group of people. I do believe in using politically correct language so as not to be offensive to other lifestyles, religions, genders, etc.
A Little Internet Searching
So I did a little searching on the internet. I found a few articles stating that this term is offensive to those who have made this choice and their surviving loved ones. But I still wasn't clear why it was offensive.
I then looked up the definition of "commit". According to Merriam Webster commit means to carry into action deliberately: commit a crime, commit a sin. I can see that the word "commit" has a connotation of negativity because of the examples used.
I looked up suicide. This means the act of taking one's own life voluntarily and intentionally. Alright. So the term "commit suicide" means to carry out the act of taking one's own life.
Further searching brought me a number of very recent articles from many reputable news sources discussing death by suicide. They ALL used the term "committed suicide".* ** ***
Major news outlets are typically politically correct. They most definitely use the current and thus least offensive terminology for everything. By the current standards of Reuters, the New York Times and the LA Times my language is not outdated or offensive.
I Can’t Make Everyone Happy
I understand that we need to be sensitive to other people. But this feels a bit over the line to me. I can't make everyone happy and I will not be afraid to speak my truth because I might offend someone. For Heaven's sake I'm a MEDIUM! My very existence is offensive to a whole bunch of people - some of to whom I'm related.
If you don't like or want to use the term "committed suicide" then don't. If you think other people should not use that term then by all means spread the word. But for the love of God be POLITE about it.
This person who contacted me about my terminology was not genuinely interested in enacting change. She just wanted to unload on me in an angry way from the safety of her computer.
Hiding behind the anonymity of the internet to bitch out someone who is doing her best to help others is not the way to enact change.
Everyone is entitled to their own thoughts and feelings and this is MY blog so I get to share mine. Those who are offended are obviously hurting because they lost someone. Losing someone to suicide is particularly traumatic. I understand that. Blaming other people for your own hurt and anger and shame is not ok and doesn't make it go away.
I mulled this over and worried for several days. I am by nature a "people-pleaser" and don't like to offend others. As I was thinking about this both my uncle and my aunt's husband who committed suicide came through to me and told me they weren't offended in the least and that I should tell "Angie" to F%^$ off.
They were both the the wild and rash sort of person who would have done just that. I am not. I decided not say anything directly to her but channeled my thoughts and feelings into this post instead.
If my loved ones in spirit who actually committed suicide are not offended by that term then I will not be offended either.
My Obligation is To the World of Spirit
As a medium I must always remember that my obligation is to the world of Spirit. Everything I say will be offensive to someone. I cannot please everyone. That's the nature of my work. I provide healing and comfort to those left here. The connections I make are most often a result of the spirits bringing people to me and not the other way around.
I am working for those in spirit. I give them a voice and let their loved ones know that love never dies. I am not working to appease the over-active egos of people still here.
February 13, 2018
My guides have been urging me to write about suicide. So, I started this post a week ago but put it aside. I felt like this topic is too heavy and I'm not qualified to write about it. When someone you love takes his or her own life it creates a special kind of hell for those left behind. While I can help people heal their grief through a connection with a loved one, suicide is particularly ugly.
Then my aunt's husband committed the ultimate act just yesterday taking his own life.
Oh my God a suicide in my extended family! It's not the first. I did not know him well, having met him only once. Yet I am acutely aware of the trauma he is putting my aunt and his other loved ones through. I'm also acutely aware that it did not solve his financial problems. Those were merely transferred to my aunt for her to deal with.
Additionally, it did not solve his emotional problems. I am aware that he feels he made a mistake. But it's too late. He can't reverse his actions. I'm aware that he wants to tell my aunt he's sorry. But she can't hear him through her grief and emotional trauma. Mostly I am aware of a life un-lived... of opportunities missed... and roads not taken.
We Are All Doing The Best We Can
However, I believe that every single one of us is doing the best we can at any given time. It's easy to look at this from the outside and make judgments about what I perceive he should have done. But my mind, my experiences and my perspective are not his. He was not able to climb up out of that hole of despair and saw no other way out. I should be sending him the highest level of compassion and love.
Many of us have lost a loved one to suicide. The impact it has on those left behind is deep and lasts forever. Even if we weren't particularly close to the person who took his life we still think about it years later. As a psychic medium, I've seen grief in many forms and suicide is extremely traumatizing for those left behind.
The loss from suicide is particularly stinging because it makes us look at ourselves and see where we think we've failed our loved ones. We wonder what we could have done differently to help our loved ones more. Many of us suffer a tremendous amount of guilt when someone we love takes his own life.
From a spiritual standpoint, suicide opens a lot of questions. We wonder if our loved one is safe on the other side. After all, many religions teach that suicide is wrong and that people who commit suicide suffer for it on the other side. That's a real fear for many of us left here. We hope and pray that our loved ones' souls aren't suffering eternal damnation.
Some religions teach that the souls of people who commit suicide are damned to wander the earth for eternity. Some teachings claim they must stay on earth for the remainder of the time they would have lived. I don't believe any of this is true.
So what does happen when someone commits suicide?
I believe everyone is welcomed into the light when we cross over regardless of how we pass. Everyone. It does not matter if a person dies naturally of old age or takes his own life, he or she is welcomed into the light. Going into the light is like coming home for our souls. I don't believe any soul is ever made to walk the earth for any length of time. Although some choose to but that is for another blog post.
Once our souls are on the other side we have a sort of "life review". In this review we see the impact on others of our actions in life including the choice of suicide. The soul who committed suicide now experiences the pain his loved ones felt when he died. He sees the trauma he left behind. When we cross over we can feel how the choices we made hurt others. Alternatively, we can see how the kind things we did also made an impact on others. So, I believe we judge ourselves.
Because I am a psychic medium I have a very different view of life and death than I used to. I have the vantage point of KNOWING that our souls go on after our bodies die. This knowledge has brought me a tremendous amount of relief. I wish all of you could feel as certain as I do that there is more to this life than just merely this physical existence.
Please understand I am not making light of suicide or of death in general. Life is precious - not to be wasted.
I send all my love and blessings out to those of you who suffer because you've lost someone to suicide. May you find peace. I also send all my love and blessings out to those souls who have committed suicide. You did the best you could with what you have.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Jan 20, 2018
Evidence Demonstrates That You Are Communicating With Your Loved Ones
Mediumship is the ability to communicate with souls who have passed over to the other side. Evidential mediumhip is using that communication to gather evidence from the spirit to demonstrate with whom I am communicating. Therefore, the evidence is of paramount importance to an evidential medium.
Anyone can tell you they are speaking with your grandmother and she loves you very much. But is that message really valuable if you don't even know for sure your grandmother is there? The messages themselves usually are not all that evidential so the evidence I gather from the person in spririt is vitally important.
For example, isn't the message that your grandmother is with you and loves you much more meaningful if I've already told you specific details about your grandmother? If she first shares with me that she handed down her pearls to you, that she was religious and liked to hang the clothes outside on the line to dry instead of using the dryer or that she always had crystal dish of candy on the coffee table then her message is much more meaningful. You will then KNOW that your grandmother is with you.*
Specific Evidence Proves the Continuity of Life**
The whole purpose of evidential mediumship is to prove the continuity of life. Now I realize that I can't prove anything to you the way physical science can prove the earth is round. But I can provide overwhelming evidence from your loved one in spirit that his or her soul has survived.
The spirits give me very specific evidence. They will tell me things like what brand of aftershave they used or what kind of cigarettes they smoked. The spirit people tell me their hobbies, their likes and dislikes. They tell me what their personality was like, how they dressed and if they were religious. Evidential mediumship is all about the evidence.
The Messages Are Secondary
The messages are often secondary. This is because the most important message is the delivery of evidence. The evidence tells you that your loved one has survived - t hat there is no real death. It tells you that the bonds of love you have with your loved ones are still there and that your loved one is still with you. It also tells you that your soul too will go on after you pass from the earth plane. Without first demonstrating good evidence from your loved one in spirit the message is meaningless.
I have a good friend who has lost a number of people very close to her. She never saw the value in evidence until she got a bad reading. It just didn't seem important to her.
Recently she was chatting with a "medium" she met on Facebook. He did a reading for her but delivered an unsettling message. My friend came to me right away upset about the reading. We talked about it and when we looked back over what this "medium" had said we realized that actually he had delivered very little evidence that he was speaking with her loved ones. She had wanted so badly to get the message that she overlooked the lack of evidence.
A message without evidence is not only meaningless but actually be damaging. The unsettling message this "medium" claimed to deliver from my friend's loved ones wasn't from them at all and caused her a lot of stress and anxiety.
Evidence is Healing
When you speak with a psychic medium and receive evidence that your loved one is with you it's very healing. Coming away from the session knowing your loved one has survived provides great comfort. But you can only get that healing when you KNOW from the demonstration of great evidence that your loved one is with you. This is why I am always working to improve my skills. The better the evidence I can receive from your loved ones the better a reading you will have.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Jan 17, 2018
A friend of mine posted this to Facebook. It's so appropriate and timely for the holiday season when many of us are experiencing deep grief over lost loved ones. This essay was written by medium George Anderson. Happy Holidays to all. XO, Chloe
From George Anderson
December 11, 2014
Every once in a while a client will come along and ask a question that makes me look back at my life of listening to the souls, and brings me to such an incredible place of understanding of not only bereavement, but of the very essence of faith and hope. I was asked a rather simple question: “What were the most beautiful words you’ve ever heard from the souls?” I had to think about it-- but the answer was spoken to me before I could even think of it, and it rang in my head and caused me to go backward through nearly 50 years of communication like an epic movie in the space of a few seconds. I realized the woman was still in front of me and waiting for an answer, so I told her--”They’re the three most simple words ever spoken.”
No, not those words--“I love you” is far too easy. These three simple words are so profound and important to the souls that they have the power to change everything we thought about the loss of our loved ones and our need to find hope. I thought back to the hundreds and perhaps thousands of times they have been said by the souls, and how poignant and beautiful they really are. The words are these:
“I was there.”
“I was there when you got the awful call. I was there when the police came to the door grim faced, and you felt as if all the air was punched out of you. I was there beside the wreck, and I was there when you found me. I was there when you were asked my name and age, and for a minute you couldn’t even think of my age. I was there when you had to identify me and I was there when you tried not to scream when they warned you to brace yourself."
“I was there when the seconds felt like hours, and I was there when people babbled incoherently about “God’s will.” I was there when you picked my favorite suit and I was there when you pulled out my prom dress. I was there when the funeral director knew he’d lost your attention, and I was there when the pastor tried to gather information for a eulogy. I was there when you couldn’t find the will to close my casket, and I was there when you had to say goodbye to my physical body.”
“I was there when everyone was gone and the house was so still. I was there when you watched the clock all night, and I was there when you saw the sun rise and wondered how you could continue living. I was there when nothing and nobody mattered to you anymore, and I was there when you bargained with God for just a small sign from me. I was there when you started finding your faith again, and I was there when you made the decision to continue living for me.”
“I was there the first time you laughed in spite of yourself. I was there when you went back to work, and saw a movie, and tended to the garden. I was there when you started reaching out to others in the same boat, and I was there when you wished me a happy birthday, or a happy anniversary, or even a happy Tuesday. I was even there the day you first realized you found hope, and the first time you could feel my hand on your heart.”
“I was there when you planted the tree, when you created the scholarship, and when you donated your time and money in my name. I was there when you pulled another mother, father, husband, wife, brother, sister or grandparent aside to tell them you understand and it will be ok in time. I was there when you found a way to continue my work, and I was there when you honored me with your service to others. I was there when you ran the marathon, when you graduated, when you married, and when you retired. No milestone went unnoticed by me because whether you knew it or not, I was there.”
“I’ll be there when it’s time for the portal to open for you, and I’ll be there when your body takes its last breath. I’ll be there to be the first person to smile at you and I’ll be there to explain that at long last, your journey is done. I’ll be there when you say goodbye to the earth, and I’ll be there to teach you how to be there for those you’ll leave behind. I’ll be there, because I’ve been there.”
As I’ve said many times over the years, we are loved well beyond our comprehension, and we are never alone on the earth when we have a loved one in the hereafter. The souls have always been there for us, and until the day we see them again in a world of joy, they will always be there.
Fear and Love. Two opposites of the same emotion. Really the only emotion is love. Fear is the absence of love. All emotions come from either fear or love. A Course In Miracles teaches that all actions we take are actually ways for us to seek love and that every action is a cry for love.
Fear and love have been on my mind a great deal lately. Why do I live in so much fear? It's very easy to think you don't have fear but when confronted with big changes in your life you will find out just how much fear you really have.
Changing my career from massage therapist to medium has been the biggest most fear filled thing I've done on purpose in my life. I am still filled with fear. Although I have much less fear of the spirit world itself now, I still fear what other people will think of me. When I read that last sentence it sounds silly. I can totally armchair quarterback myself and say "Why would anyone be afraid of what others think? Just get over it, Chloe, and be your authentic self."
When I step outside of myself its very easy to see how simple it is. But living it is another story. Also just when I think I've got a handle on the fear and I'm finally moving past it something happens to scare me right back into my shell. I'll get something wrong in a reading or my husband will say something less than supportive about it. He is definitely not on the mediuship bandwagon. That has perhaps been the hardest part. Although, from what I've seen it's quite usual when one is a medium to have a spouse who does not quite get it. It's ok. He'll come around.
I understand the whole fear and love thing. I really do. Yet I'm still in fear. There are still people I'm afraid of finding out what I do. What will my massage business partner think? Will she be mad at me? What will my husband's family think? Will I earn any money? I know there are many people out there who want a medium. They are all over Facebook. There are tons of groups on Facebook doing psychic and mediumship readings. Those groups have tens of thousands of people who want mediumship services to help ease their grief.
I also know that if I can't get over this fear and own who and what I am I'll never attract enough clients. A fearful energy does not attract clients. I won't be serving the clients who need me or the spirits in the spirit world who want to connect with their loved ones here through me. If I can't get over my fears I'm literally not serving others in the best possible way for the highest good. I have a gift which I can use to be of great service and I need to get over my fear and stand up and serve. Thinking of all the people who need my abilities does help put it in perspective and ease my fear a bit. I must change my thoughts to come from love and serve from love. After all mediumship is all about love. Love never dies.
Many of us live in fear. We are afraid to go for a new promotion, afraid to start a new business, afraid to ask someone on a date and afraid to take risks. We create these prisons of fear for ourselves based on what? Our minds make up scenarios about what will happen if we take these risks. Yet inevitably when we take the risk we find out the result isn't nearly as bad as we think. In fact, we often find that other people are much more supportive of us than we previously thought.
So what can we do to get over our fears and start living the life we want? What can we do to live a life of love?
What comes to my mind is to recognize when our thoughts are coming from fear. Simply recognizing when our thoughts are fear based is huge. Once you recognize it and mentally step outside of the thought you can control it. "Hey, wait a minute. I'm feeling fear here." If we can realize when we are feeling fear and having fear based thoughts then we can also remember that the opposite of fear is love. So then the goal is to move our feelings from fear based to love based.
That sounds like a pretty tall order. But really just recognizing the fear gives you power over it. What I have been doing when I recognize that I'm feeling fear and my thoughts are coming from fear is to reframe my thoughts so that they are coming from love. I remind myself that I can't help people if I am afraid to let others know that I am a medium and that I am offering mediumship services. I also remind myself that what other people think of me really isn't my business and that I have no control over other people's thought. The only thoughts I can control are my own.
Knowing what you can control and what you can't and knowing that every thought, every emotion is based in either love or fear will put ahead leaps and bounds in the game. Understanding fear and love truly eases the mind and brings peace. It helps to tame the fears and put our worries into perspective. Really what we fear isn't usually that big of a deal and once we face those fears we are much happier and able to live the life we want.
Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Nov. 27, 2018
I have just returned from a workshop in Seattle taught by world renowned medium Mavis Pitilla. I learned much more than I expected and met many wonderful mediums who I now consider friends. Rather than just teaching techniques, Mavis teaches us to get to know ourselves and our own mediumship. Top on my mind since my return to Alaska has been why do I even want to do this? In order to be the best medium I can for you I need to know why I even want to. Accepting my mediumship took a very long time and plenty of soul searching. I had to address and overcome numerous fears.
Why do I want to be a medium?
Why do I want to be a medium? After all, the path of the medium is not an easy one. Mediumship is a difficult discipline to do well. Communicating with spirit on demand is different and more difficult than spontaneous communication. Meaning when I attempt to contact a sitter's loved ones on the other side it's different (more difficult) than when those in spirit make themselves known to me and ask for communication. (I am always ever grateful to the spirit world for their patience with me.) Being a medium also subjects one to the negative attitudes of those in the physical world. Whether other people accuse mediums of being fraudulent or doing the devil's work the negativity can be hard to take. So, why would anyone want to do this?
Mediums and those involved with the spirit world are often very altruistic and compassionate people. Often I have heard from teachers that "your first reason for wanting to be a medium had better be to help others." While that is true for me just as important is that my work be personally fulfilling. There are many, many ways of helping other people and not all of those ways do I find enjoyable or personally fulfilling. I have had a very fulfilling career as a massage therapist for many years. I could keep doing that and help others. My massage clients could certainly argue that massage is my gift and best way to help others.
However, when I have delivered a loving message and proven to someone on the earth plane through evidence that life does go on the healing that takes place is much more profound than anything else I can facilitate. When someone's grief is alleviated just a little bit and he or she gets to spend time for a few moments longer in a true loving connection with someone on the other side I am so deeply aware of the difference my mediunship ability has made in their life. That communication helps not only those still on the earth plane but those in spirit too. They miss you and want to talk with you too. Often those in spirit want the connection more than those on earth.
My ability to see, hear, feel those in spirit can provide a profound level of healing. To ignore it is to squander a precious gift from God. Who am I to squander that which God has given me?