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Your Reading is About YOU

I answer a lot of relationship questions.  We’re all alike really.  We all want to be loved. I want to help you find that.  I have noticed there are a few things people repeatedly ask me. These things people ask aren’t really all that helpful for finding love.  Always keeps in mind that your reading is about you.

Asking What Someone Else Thinks About You

During your reading you may be tempted to ask questions about what other people are thinking about you.  The logic behind this question is that if the other person has interest in you then maybe you will get together.

When you have hung your personal happiness on a particular outcome with a particular person and can see no other way to be happy you are setting yourself up for a huge disappointment.

I feel sad for people in this situation. I have been there myself. It’s not a strong confident place to be.  It is a pitiful place of victimhood where you allow other people and events to control your happiness.

While it’s true that if your person of interest is attracted to you there’s is more of a chance you will get together, it is not a certainty. Even if that person and you have deep soul connection through many lifetimes you are not guaranteed to have a relationship with him in this lifetime.  What you really want is to be loved. You think it has to be this certain person but maybe it won’t be. Maybe it will be someone better.

Wanting to Know What is Going On in Somone Else’s Relationship

Or you might want to know what is going on in another person’s relationship.

This is not your business and has little effect on your life. You cannot control what other people do. As a psychic my job is to look into the energy surrounding YOU and help you to get where you want to be. If your happiness depends on another person’s actions you are setting yourself up for disappointment.

One question I frequently get is “What is going on with my ex and his new girlfriend?” The logic is that if it’s bad with the new girlfriend your ex may come back to you. Not only is this flawed thinking it’s psychic spying. Your ex’s relationship with his current girlfriend has nothing to do with you.

Wanting to Know The Future

Everyone wants to know the future. I get it. I want to know the future too.  If you know the future you can take action to change it. Unfortunately, the future is very hard to accurately predict.  There I said it.  A psychic prediction is giving you the probable outcome based on current energy if nothing changes. But we’ve all felt the energy of a situation change. And does knowing the outcome change the outcome itself?

But I suggest that it’s better to know how to CREATE the future you want. I do currently give predictions because that is what people want.  However, I feel giving predictions robs you of your free will.  If you want love then go out and find it. Ask God and your angels to guide you to it. But don’t surrender your free will to a psychic prediction.

When you develop a strong sense of who you are and what you are all about then you no longer need to hang your happiness on another person. You will then no longer surrender your power to other people or to psychic predictions. This is true freedom. This is creating your future.

With Love,

Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Anchorage, Alaska

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Fear And Love

Fear and Love
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Fear and Love. Two opposites of the same emotion.  Really the only emotion is love.  Fear is the absence of love. All emotions come from either fear or love.  A Course In Miracles teaches that all actions we take are actually ways for us to seek love and that every action is a cry for love.

Fear and love have been on my mind a great deal lately.  Why do I live in so much fear? It's very easy to think you don't have fear but when confronted with big changes in your life you will find out just how much fear you really have.

Changing my career from massage therapist to medium has been the biggest most fear filled thing I've done on purpose in my life.  I am still filled with fear.  Although I have much less fear of the spirit world itself now, I still fear what other people will think of me.  When I read that last sentence it sounds silly.  I can totally armchair quarterback myself and say "Why would anyone be afraid of what others think? Just get over it, Chloe, and be your authentic self."

When I step outside of myself its very easy to see how simple it is.  But living it is another story.  Also just when I think I've got a handle on the fear and I'm finally moving past it something happens to scare me right back into my shell.  I'll get something wrong in a reading or  my husband will say something less than supportive about it.  He is  definitely not on the mediuship bandwagon.  That has perhaps been the hardest part.  Although, from what I've seen it's quite usual when one is a medium to have a spouse who does not quite get it. It's ok. He'll come around.

I understand the whole fear and love thing.  I really do.  Yet I'm still in fear. There are still people I'm afraid of finding out what I do.  What will my massage business partner think? Will she be mad at me? What will my husband's family think? Will I earn any money? I know there are many people out there who want a medium. They are all over Facebook.  There are tons of groups on Facebook doing psychic and mediumship readings.  Those groups have tens of thousands of people who want mediumship services to help ease their grief.

Eight of Swords Robin Wood Tarot
Eight of Swords Robin Wood Tarot.

I also know that if I can't get over this fear and own who and what I am I'll never attract enough clients. A fearful energy does not attract clients. I won't be serving the clients who need me or the spirits in the spirit world who want to connect with their loved ones here through me. If I can't get over my fears I'm literally not serving others in the best possible way for the highest good.  I have a gift which I can use to be of great service and I need to get over my fear and stand up and serve.  Thinking of all the people who need my abilities does help put it in perspective and ease my fear a bit. I must change my thoughts to come from love and serve from love. After all mediumship is all about love. Love never dies.

Many of us live in fear.  We are afraid to go for a new promotion, afraid to start a new business, afraid to ask someone on a date and afraid to take risks.  We create these prisons of fear for ourselves based on what? Our minds make up scenarios about what will happen if we take these risks.  Yet inevitably when we take the risk we find out the result isn't nearly as bad as we think. In fact, we often find that other people are much more supportive of us than we previously thought.

So what can we do to get over our fears and start living the life we want? What can we do to live a life of love?

Fear and Love
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What comes to my mind is to recognize when our thoughts are coming from fear.  Simply recognizing when our thoughts are fear based is huge.  Once you recognize it and mentally step outside of the thought you can control it.   "Hey, wait a minute. I'm feeling fear here."  If we can realize when we are feeling fear and having fear based thoughts then we can also remember that the opposite of fear is love.  So then the goal is to move our feelings from fear based to love based.

That sounds like a pretty tall order. But really just recognizing the fear gives you power over it. What I have been doing when I recognize that I'm feeling fear and my thoughts are coming from fear is to reframe my thoughts so that they are coming from love. I remind myself that I can't help people if I am afraid to let others know that I am a medium and that I am offering mediumship services. I also remind myself that what other people think of me really isn't my business and that I have no control over other people's thought.  The only thoughts I can control are my own.

Knowing what you can control and what you can't and knowing that every thought, every emotion is based in either love or fear will put ahead leaps and bounds in the game. Understanding fear and love truly eases the mind and brings peace. It helps to tame the fears and put our worries into perspective.  Really what we fear isn't usually that big of a deal and once we face those fears we are much happier and able to live the life we want.

Love,
Chloe

Chloe Miguel, Psychic Medium
Nov
. 27, 2018
Anchorage, Alaska

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Why Do I Want to be a Medium?

Mavis in Seattle Class 2017
Mavis in Seattle Class 2017

I have just returned from a workshop in Seattle taught by world renowned medium Mavis Pitilla. I learned much more than I expected and met many wonderful mediums who I now consider friends. Rather than just teaching techniques, Mavis teaches us to get to know ourselves and our own mediumship. Top on my mind since my return to Alaska has been why do I even want to do this? In order to be the best medium I can for you I need to know why I even want to. Accepting my mediumship took a very long time and plenty of soul searching.  I had to address and overcome numerous fears.

Why do I want to be a medium?

Why do I want to be a medium? After all, the path of the medium is not an easy one.  Mediumship is a difficult discipline to do well.  Communicating with spirit on demand is different and more difficult than spontaneous communication.  Meaning when I attempt to contact a sitter's loved ones on the other side it's different (more difficult) than when those in spirit make themselves known to me and ask for communication.  (I am always ever grateful to the spirit world for their patience with me.)  Being a medium also subjects one to the negative attitudes of those in the physical world.  Whether other people accuse mediums of being fraudulent or doing the devil's work the negativity can be hard to take. So, why would anyone want to do this?

Mediums and those involved with the spirit world are often very altruistic and compassionate people. Often I have heard from teachers that "your first reason for wanting to be a medium had better be to help others." While that is true for me just as important is that my work be personally fulfilling.  There are many, many ways of helping other people and not all of those ways do I find enjoyable or personally fulfilling. I have had a very fulfilling career as a massage therapist for many years.  I could keep doing that and help others. My massage clients could certainly argue that massage is my gift and best way to help others.

Mavis Pitilla and Chloe Miguel
Mavis Pitilla and Chloe Miguel

However, when I have delivered a loving message and proven to someone on the earth plane through evidence that life does go on the healing that takes place is much more profound than anything else I can facilitate. When someone's grief is alleviated just a little bit and he or she gets to spend time for a few moments longer in a true loving connection with someone on the other side I am so deeply aware of the difference my mediunship ability has made in their life. That communication helps not only those still on the earth plane but those in spirit too. They miss you and want to talk with you too. Often those in spirit want the connection more than those on earth.

My ability to see, hear, feel those in spirit can provide a profound level of healing. To ignore it is to squander a precious gift from God. Who am I to squander that which God has given me?

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